Last nights dream, I was in a shopping mall, a presentation caught my eye, it was in a Coach ladies store, the presenter had a video up on the screen show casing the hand bags and shoes, I sat down on the floor, the presenter said I had arrived at the best moment, I said, that is how my life goes, next we were all playing a game, myself and the ladies around me, one of the ladies offered me a cocktail which I refused saying I am trying to quite, which is true in real life also, she was a bit intoxicated and seemed to be hitting on me, the game consisted of moving a chip around on the blanket between players, when I moved the chip closer to one of the female players she indicated I had made a poor move but the presenter stepped in and said, NO, he in fact had made the best move and won, the player was miffed that the other lady stood up for me, as I was the only male and didn't know the rules. I said I was there to purchase a birthday gift for my future wife, I liked one of the Deep Red hand bags I had seen on the presentation, matched with a pair of shoes, the clerk took me to rack for me to select something, but they only had a very drab looking pair of bright red shoes and no hand bags, I said something, which I don't recall now, and I woke up.
Dreams often serve as reflections of our subconscious thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Your dream appears to be rich in symbolism and may hold several layers of meaning. Let’s break it down:
Shopping malls symbolize choices, social interactions, and the pursuit of desires or aspirations. In your case, it's a space where you're exploring potential gifts, representing your search for personal fulfillment or the desire to connect more deeply with others, particularly with your future wife.
The presentation in the Coach ladies' store suggests a focus on luxury, beauty, or perhaps the pressures of societal standards. Coach is known for its high-quality products, which might reflect your aspirations for a life partner that embodies a certain richness—both materially and emotionally. Sitting on the floor during the presentation can indicate a feeling of humility or a desire to absorb information without the pressures of standing or presenting yourself outwardly.
The game with the other women and the dynamics that unfolded suggest a negotiation of social roles and confidence. In your dream, you were interacting with ladies who were clearly engaged in the social activity of the game, which may reveal your desire to connect with the feminine aspects of yourself or your future relationships. The fact that you were the only male and knew nothing of the game suggests feelings of being out of place, which might parallel waking life experiences where you feel uncertain about your direction or role—perhaps especially in your relationships.
This refusal of a cocktail to align with your goal of sobriety indicates a commitment to self-control and personal growth. It also emphasizes a struggle with temptation and the social pressures that accompany it. The intoxicated woman hitting on you may represent a temptation or distraction that you want to avoid, indicating an awareness of the choices affecting your life.
When you moved the chip and were told you made a "best move," it symbolizes unexpected success or validation despite not fully understanding the rules. This can translate to a subconscious belief that even when you're unsure or not following conventional paths, you can still achieve positive outcomes. The tension with the other female player who was miffed can represent jealousy or competition in social dynamics, possibly indicating personal feelings around relationships or aspirations.
The act of purchasing a birthday gift for your future wife is symbolic of your commitment to a future and a more profound understanding of partnership. The deep red handbag representing desire or passion being unavailable suggests a feeling of loss or disappointment in not fully realizing your desires or the ability to express them. The clerk offering a drab pair of shoes, in contrast, might reflect feelings of being unfulfilled or the belief that you are not meeting expectations—perhaps your own or those you perceive from your environment.
Overall, this dream appears to reflect your ambitions, desires for connection, personal growth, and the balancing act of navigating societal expectations while remaining true to yourself. It might serve as encouragement to embrace your journey, acknowledge your feelings, and remain open to the possibilities that lie before you. The clear themes of choice, self-discovery, and relational dynamics suggest you are at a pivotal point in understanding how to best reflect your true self in future relationships.